I cannot thank all that is the Highest Power for bringing me back to Bishop Carlton Pearson!!! I was never a fan, but had an appreciation for what Azusa was to Pentecostalism. However, when he became more of his authentic, actualized self, I felt a kinship based on the unexplainable, deep, inward knowledge that there was something more than religion. Please enjoy this short life-giving, liberating message that you may feel connects to your desire to move beyond rhetoric and religious dogma into a spiritual relationship that lifts you to greater consciousness. The young folks would say, “Stay woke!” What Carlton Pearson shares will allow you to do just that!
Cheyenne picks up where she left off in her guest blog post for August. Check it out!
Silence the Noise
Stop listening to other people. This is your journey and yours alone. You can’t share everything with everybody! Are you unsure who these folks may be? ANYONE who tells you “You’re too old!” If a person is comfortable with just existing or is constantly negative…WRONG PERSON! Not just anyone can be an objective partner with you on this journey. Tune out the noise and tune into your inner being. Pay attention to how you feel when performing certain activities. Listen keenly to your heart and spirit.
If you have the desire to do something, do it! It’s the only way to actually figure out what you like or what you’re not drawn to. A couple years ago, I planned a trip to Europe. I had no idea what experiences I would have but I was open to receive them. That experience opened my mind to the possibilities and I have not turned back. I love travelling and experiencing other cultures. Another way to explore is becoming a volunteer. Volunteering your time allows you to discover your interests and your passion!
Find a mentor or a life coach; someone you can talk to who will be objective, encouraging, and realistic. If you can’t get one physically, the libraries and bookstores are filled with books written by successful people.
Once you’ve discovered the one or many things that you are truly passionate about, get to work! Figure out how you can use your talents and gifts to assist others. Surround yourself with like-minded people. Then…go forth and conquer!
It’s my pleasure to introduce to you a former colleague and rising star in the field of academic and professional coaching/counseling. Cheyenne is a multi-talented individual with a gift for helping other achieve their quest for success. You’ll want to take notes on this one! Enjoy!!!
– Dr. Kim
It’s Your Life: START LIVING IT!
How many times have you heard someone say, “I wish I would’ve” or “I’ll do it next month?” I was in church and the pastor said if you haven’t made any strides toward what you’ve said you were going to do, most likely you’re not going to do it! So, my question is: What will you do today that will help you achieve the life you want tomorrow?
We are born into this world with two plans. One plan our parents map out for us and then there’s the one God intends for us. Our parents enroll us in dancing school and karate classes; tell us which major we can choose because their dollars are sending us to college; and, strongly give us their opinions on what we should wear and how we should govern ourselves. However, at the end of the day each person has to live with their decisions about their lives. Now, don’t get me wrong; I do believe that parents should be our guides by instilling character, morals, discipline, and great judgment. But, as we age, there comes a time that we must make our own decisions and our own mistakes. It’s the only way we will truly come into living our own lives!
Unfortunately, many people are still living their parent’s goals and dreams. I was watching an episode of Chopped and during the introductory portion, one chef said his mom cut him off for years because all of his siblings were in the medical field. She wanted the same for him but he decided to pursue cooking – his passion. After hearing his story, I didn’t care if he won Chopped or not! I was so excited to see someone who opened the door to his purpose.
When I was in my twenties, I was always envious of young people who lived life boldly and unapologetically. I was always a follow-the-rules kind of girl, speaking properly and dressing conservatively. I believed in the words of Kelly Clarkson’s song entitled, Because of You (Hear it here https://youtu.be/Ra-Om7UMSJc):
because of you I’ve learned to play on the safe side so I don’t get hurt.
Because of you I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me.
Because of you I am afraid.
Even though deep down I was still a rule-follower, I was passionate about life. It took awhile, but guess what? I managed to step outside of the box and start living! Although this song speaks about Clarkson’s emotional distress caused by her parents divorce, the lyrics suggest that our parents may unconsciously instill their fears in us, causing us to live at 70% instead of the 100% God intends for us.
How long are you going to allow your parents fears to affect your life? How long will you let your family or friend’s opinions hold you back from your true calling? Life is about taking chances. It’s about failing and getting back up to try again and again and again until the goal is achieved. It’s about swinging as high as you can and jumping off the swing set. It’s about running in the rain and dancing in Home Depot because your jam came on the loudspeaker.
(Let me put this disclaimer out right now,: don’t jump off the swing set if you are not set up to do that…LOL.)
So, what does purpose have to do with living life? In my opinion, the pursuit of purpose creates our life’s journey to wholeness and true happiness. It is what we are put on this earth to do. Until you step out of the box and find your purpose, you’ll feel lost and your life will feel unfulfilled. So, DARE TO START LIVING! There’s a swing set or a Home Depot aisle just waiting for you……
I’m excited to introduce you to a New Orleans transplant…a woman with a powerfully soulful and thought-provoking message! Kelly is a published poet, blogger, entrepreneur, and all around cool Sista! She has mastered the art of keeping it real and raw with words that challenge your thinking while lifting your soul to new heights of awareness. She really is THAT Sista! Enjoy!!!
– Dr. Kim
If You’re Happy and You Know It
Those that don’t got it, can’t show it. Those that got it, can’t hide it.
-Zora Neale Hurston, Their Eyes Were Watching God
My husband and I want our daughter, Naomi, to love reading. As often as I can, I take Naomi to storytime at the local library. We usually arrive on time to find a good seat on the activity carpet. It’s the perfect mid-day activity for stay-at-home parents/caregivers. Naomi enjoys the finger play, books, songs and nursery rhymes. She often sways in a circle, clapping and singing her enthusiasm. I give her freedom, but keep her close.
“She claps loud,” a parent whines. Naomi continues.
The beginning of the melody of If You’re Happy & You Know It plays and her enthusiasm grows. Now she is swaying, clapping and giggling in a circle, before the lyrics begin.
“She’s not doing it right!” whines a child seemingly two years older.
The parent assures the worried child that Naomi is indeed not clapping on time and with practice her claps will align with the song. “She’ll learn to clap with the song, honey.”
I am annoyed at the adult and child who feel sorry for Naomi clapping early.
Then it hits me.
Naomi is happy and she knows it.
If you’re happy, not only will your face show it, but your being, your essence, your spirit, how you engage others will reflect self-assuredness and inner bliss.
Naomi was not trying to showboat. Naomi laughs and dances each day with or without music or an audience. Clapping and singing are as natural to her as breathing.
When she cries, she often claps. Sometimes I have to ask her, “Are you happy or sad?”
She even watches The Jefferson’s reruns with her feet crossed — laughing at George and Weezy.
She’s just a happy baby—a happy Black baby— among a sea of white children.
Naomi was unaware of the stares and snarky comments. But as a parent, I wondered if this was an environment I should remove her from. But then again, this is a teachable moment:
Don’t change who you are to make others comfortable.
Unhappy people often want you to dim your light and happiness.
If you’re happy and you know it, you can clap and dance whenever you want.
I pulled Naomi close to me and kissed her.
“Don’t let anyone steal your joy,” I whispered.
She smiled and took off, twirling in the center of the crowd like no one was watching.
Check out Kelly Harris-DeBerry – “Your homegirl in digital world ” – at Brassy Brown (http://www.brassybrown.com) where Women of Color are first in line!